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Ellen from Endwell's avatar

Interesting to hear what men go through around aging. With women it's becoming invisible and no longer the subject of the male gaze as either a romantic or employment possibility. Quite a shock when women are used to being gazed at.

Time and gravity are the silent and stealthy ravagers no matter who you are. So it's surprising that you didn't age as much in prison.

Decarceration's avatar

Well, physically I’m well-preserved. But I certainly feel well over the hill.

Amanda Kusek's avatar

Thanks for the reminder that this is still on my watch list… Interestingly I just had a conversation with some friends about what changes in 10 years and what doesn’t. To be held in time as you were is a cognitive dissonance I can’t really begin to understand. I can however be excited for you to embrace this next decade.

Decarceration's avatar

Well, I never said I was “excited”. I’M OLD AS HELL, YO.

Amanda Kusek's avatar

Lol. That's why you have people like me who can be excited for you!

Emmett Tatter's avatar

I actually really enjoyed that movie. I remember my mom called me and asked if I’d watch it with her, lol. I was like …. Mom! But I am so happy I did.

I know what it’s like to lose time. I hear you. ✨✨🥹

Ian Winter's avatar

“I went in after I had turned thirty, and I got out at 39, losing, essentially, my entire thirties” is such a punch of sadness. It’s glib to add an “especially”, but especially for somebody who’s clearly such a thoughtful soul whose 30s would be transformative out in the world. Hope you’re able to make up for it in your 40s and beyond. You seem like an embracing-the-world kind of guy. (Apologies if this comment’s a downer.)

Decarceration's avatar

Well, thank you. It's an inherently sad concept, I suppose, but it's also fairly abstract. How do you yearn for something you'd never had? My grandparents died before I was born, and people always get sad when I mention that, but I simply never had grandparents, you know? Anyway, this decade's better so far.

nina's avatar

And regardless of what part or how long a part of our lives we've lost, that's your answer. We go from where we are with what we've got! Congrats on looking good after those lost years - few of us can say that ;-)

Decarceration's avatar

This is excessively kind for you to say, thank you.